Love for Imperfect Things: How to Accept Yourself in a World Striving for Perfection

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Now that we are accepting that flaws are normal and each individual has their own – the truth about perfection is finally being revealed – it simply doesn’t exist.

Seperti yang sudah-sudah, tulisan Haemin Sunim disukai karena seolah menyuarakan hati banyak orang, hati para pembaca bukunya. Misalnya,

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Repetition and continuity: an action that was happening, used to happen, or happened regularly in the past, as it was ongoing The book is split up into clear sections so you can easily find a particular area you feel a need for words of wisdom on, from self-care and acceptance to family and relationships. I read the book from start to finish as I found that even in the chapters that on the surface I felt weren't applicable to my life at this moment in time, I still found plenty of great insights that I could take on board. Having these contained sections means that it's very easy to dip in and out of this book at a later stage for some guidance on a specific topic as well.Leaving the idea of perfection behind and accepting that imperfect is perfect raises our confidence. If the roads are broken, we need better paths. If the electricity is gone, we need illumination. If someone 100 km away needs us in 30 mins, we need better transportation. And still, we say, is there any importance of imperfection? Atelophobia often leads to constant judgment and negative evaluation that you do not believe you’re doing things perfectly, correctly, or the right way. Licensed clinical psychologist, Menije Boduryan-Turner, PsyD, says this need for perfectionism is different from having ambition or striving for excellence. Second, if your depression is triggered by negative comments about you by people who dont know you very well, you should understand that thought it sounds like they’re talking about you, their words say more about their own negative psychological state than they do about you.

In The Things You Can Only See When You Slow Down , Sunim showed that a busy mind is probably not the best response to our busy world, that we can cultivate calm and quiet amidst the noise and commotion. In Love for Imperfect Things , he shows us how our struggles can be a blessing. He writes:The truth is imperfection is perfection in its best form because in the end there really is no such thing as perfect. The second past action will normally need the preterite. It’s usually used to say that someone was doing something (imperfect), when all of a sudden something happened (preterite). No quería tener hijos pero de un día para el otro cambié de opinión. (I did not want to have children, but I changed my mind overnight.) Sama seperti buku pertama, buku kedua ini juga berilustrasi gambar. Art worknya tidak dikerjakan oleh pihak yang sama. Sekilas nuansanya mirip, mungkin karena mengambil warna-warna yang lembut sebagai padu padannya. Tapi lagi-lagi saya lebih suka ilustrasi di buku pertama ketimbang buku kedua ini. Ini soal selera saja sih. Pembaca yang lain mungkin saja lebih menyukai art work di buku kedua ini.

Like other specific phobias, atelophobia can be treated with a combination of psychotherapy, medication, and lifestyle changes. Buku ini saya rekomendasikan kepada pembaca yang mencari buku self help yang sederhana tulisannya tapi berbobot isinya. Topiknya berfokus pada menerima dan berbahagia meski hidup itu penuh ketidaksempurnaan. Setiap bab dibuka dengan sebuah tulisan pengalaman pribadi Haemin Sunim yang menginspirasi kita, juga menyentuh hati. Selepas itu, ada tulisan-tulisan singkat yang berisi kebijaksanaan, hikmah, opini, nasihat, bahkan semacam solusi praktis. Beberapa tulisan mungkin klise, tapi tetap relevan dan bermanfaat. Membacanya membuat kita merasa hangat, dimengerti, diingatkan, dan disemangati untuk melewati periode kehidupan yang kadang tidak seperti yang kita harapkan. Buku ini dapat menjadi kawan yang tepat untuk kita melewati masa-masa penuh duka atau bimbang. Ada kutipan dari beberapa tokoh juga di dalamnya. Ilustrasi gambarnya indah, digarap oleh seniman Lisk Feng yang ternama. There are so many bad things happening outside at a random pace, and we have no control over most of them. It seems imperfect, yet this is how we find meaning in life. In Malayalam (verbs are never conjugated for grammatical person, which is indicated by a pronoun), there are two indicative imperfects, corresponding exactly with English:Congratulations—you now know everything you need to master the preterite and past imperfect in Spanish! When we accept that we all have flaws, we become more personable and well-rounded as an individual – it becomes easier to connect with others around you because people won’t feel judged by you and you won’t feel judged by other people. FluentU has a wide variety of great content, like interviews, documentary excerpts and web series, as you can see here: If everything was perfect, there probably would be no meaning in life. Because perfection is not real. Nobody has ever achieved it and probably will not ever. Therefore, it’s best that we find meaning in what we have and look forward to other imperfections in life to find more meaning. Most Slavic languages have lost the imperfect but it is preserved in Bulgarian and Macedonian. It is also officially retained in Serbian and Croatian but is considered old-fashioned and restricted to literature for poetic and stylistic reasons.