Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life

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The thing that I didn't like was how he went on about keeping your relationships with your family because they are always so important and no matter what you should keep them up. Family doesn't have to be blood my dude, and there are plenty of toxic or abusive family situations that should also be forgiven and then let go of because they are not good for those in them. Another fascinating aspect Bishop highlights: When we take on challenges, and when we push ourselves in new directions, it’s not only challenging for us – it also challenges those around us. Even those who love us. Stop Doing Dumb Shit: Who and what is getting in the way of your success? Remove this shit from your life. So how can one do so? Well, as you derail from your well-established goals, you should stop and analyze what caused you misfortune in your undertakings. Most often than not, you’ll find that it is something that could’ve been done better by you. Learn from that.

Free yourself of dumb self expectations - say 'i expect nothing and accept everything' twice a day for a weekRelationships shouldn’t be 50-50 because it becomes a game of judgement if the other person also gives their 50. I give my all in so it is up to the other person what they will give. Epictetus said: my brother shouldn’t have treated me this way but it is for him to see that. For my part, however he treats me, I should conduct myself toward him as I ought because that is my business and the rest is not my concern. In this, nobody can hinder me while everything else is subject to hindreds. If a relationship is truly unworkable and no longer serving anyone - then break it, get out of it. Most people rather be miserable than deal with what it takes to make themselves happy. Don’t be that person - it’s a complete sell out on yourself and everyone else when you double down on your own misery. Positive Self Talk: The human mind is in a constant state of internal conversation. The words you say to yourself have the potential to promote or slow down your willingness to act, and thus influence the direction of your life. You must speak positivity to yourself, and let it guide your heart. There were a couple little take aways which made it worthwhile to me, but I wouldn't necessarily recommend it. Have you ever felt like a hamster on a wheel, furiously churning your way through life but somehow going nowhere? It seems like there’s a barrage of information surrounding us in our everyday lives with the keys to this thing or that thing, be it wealth, success, happiness or purpose. The truth is, most of it fails to capture what it truly takes to overcome our greatest barrier to a greater life…ourselves. What if everything you ever wanted resided in you like a well of potential, waiting to be expressed? Unfu*k Yourself is the handbook for the resigned and defeated, a manifesto for real life change and unleashing your own greatness. Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life by Gary John Bishop – eBook Details Building muscle takes time. One workout won’t cut it. In fact, for most people, you’ll need to put in the hard reps for a lot longer than you realise.

And if you feel like my personal 1:1 support and coaching could be just what you’re looking for, schedule a free consultation call. And don’t worry, there’s no hard sell. It’s an opportunity to find out if we’re a good fit to work together. Another way we drown progress is by setting up grand expectations in our mind and then comparing our progress to those expectations. There’s a massive difference between ‘I am relentless’ and ‘I will be relentless,’” he writes. “One of those statements intervenes in this moment of your life, the other lives more like a description of what’s to come rather than what’s here.”Ultimately, the power to change lies within everyone. We each have to own our current situation, recognize the limiting beliefs and negative language that has got us there or kept us there, and set a new course for our lives with intention. Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” - Dale Carnegie. I get what he was trying to do. And for a large segment of society, it's fine. Many of us sit on our asses and bitch about the things we don't have and wait for them to be delivered to us. But throwing a blanket "You have to WANT it and WORK for it" statement out there, without taking into account that there are ACTUAL real reasons for some people to not have the life they want feels a lot like blaming the oppressed for their oppression. When a large section of the population is disenfranchised by design... someone else IS responsible for that, and no amount of reframing internal thoughts and making better personal habits or "just doing it" will fix it. Sometimes we all need a little help moving forward and often the most significant barrier to success is our minds.[Bishop] shares tools and advice you need to demolish the baggage weighing you down. Lexington Herald Leader

To truly progress, we must confront our self-talk and self-image and challenge them in ways that allow us to move from where we are to where we say we want to be. It all starts, Bishop says in “Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life,” with language. ‘I am,’ not ‘I will be’ As a psychologist I often like to read self-help books my clients might read or my students might encounter. Sometimes I use them to drive home points or offer them as resources. I like to see what is out there. This book is actually pretty good at illustrating basic Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and REBT principles. For that, I would have given it a solid 4 stars! I think it drives home the very very very basics of CBT in a "average citizen" sort of way. However, if you have ANY exposure to therapy or CBT or self help then this book is probably nothing new. Additionally, it really doesn't offer any actionable steps or advice on what to do. It tended to be very general. Minus a few stars for that--I could see that being VERY frustrating for people. I still don't love the artificial mainstream palatability, but technique is technique. He drops some serious gems while he's working. He didn't get to his position by chance. As Theodore Roosevelt said, “In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”We adapted to avoid risk because it could meana life-and-death situation. But we have not yet adapted to recognize the difference between life-threatening risk and ego-threatening risk in our modern world. Thus, we avoid things that put us in uncomfortable situations because our brain is signaling mortal danger. Listening to this is like sitting in the corner during a prizefight and having a super eccentric trainer yell at you. Except between all the random speeches he's asking you questions that are exposing all of your internal bullshit. I listened to this on Audible, where Gary John Bishop's Scottish accent adds priceless enthusiasm and flavor to the material. The other cause for disappointment and giving up is our expectations. Expect the unexpected. The unhappiness lies in the gap between hidden expectations and reality. In marriages, the biggest cause of discord is unmet expectations. Don’t expect victory or defeat. Plan for victory, learn from defeat. Remove The Excuse: Life doesn’t listen to your excuses. It’s ruthless. Remove your excuses if you want to succeed.